I know we are a little behind this week but come on, we are working on not judging others so don't be that person! ha ha.. So how has it been for you guys? Have any of these interviews with these women helped you see things differently or think about yourself and others in a more positive light? I know it has for me, a lot. I just find myself always being negative and finding something wrong with myself and others and then I think about something I remembered that one of these ladies said and then I focus on that and try to be more positive. Most of the time it helps I wish I could say all the time but that is not true. We are human and have natural instincts to be critical and harsh. And by a little practice and hard work we can overcome this and have more control over our thoughts.
Anywhoo.. this weekend we will be sharing our interview with another momma
STEPHANI @Steph__pollock
She is a mother to a darling little girl, a wife, a photographer, and a blogger
1. What is self esteem to you and how does it affect the person you are?
Self esteem to me, is believing in myself. When I believe in
myself I am the most productive, positive and outgoing person. When I don’t, I
feel like my world falls apart.
2. What are five words that you would choose
to describe yourself?
1. Loyal 2.Passionate
3.Beautiful 4.Outgoing 5.Stylish
3. Do you ever get down or are too hard on
yourself sometimes?
Yes, ALL the time. I think as women we are too hard on
ourselves all the time. Especially now that I’m a mother, on top of being a
women I feel like I’m always wondering if I am enough. Or if I’m doing anything
right.
4. Are there specific things that trigger
those negative vibes and feelings?
I’m usually down on myself when I have a deadline to meet or
if I have a dream project but can’t make it a reality. I start criticizing
myself instead of owning it and doing my thing.
5. How do you help yourself get out of that
“negative funk?”
I totally take a bath! Or I light a few candles and blast
the music in my house while I scroll through funny buzzfeed articles. Then I
have a good cry about why I don’t feel good enough and my husband encourages me
and tells me I’m awesome! haha.
6. Do you ever find yourself judging or
comparing yourself to others? (if so when)
Yes, Usually in situations I feel uncomfortable in. But I
try and catch myself and instead I start complimenting that person. If that’s
inside my head or out loud. I try and correct my thinking because I’m only
comparing myself because of an insecurity inside of me. Often, I’ll go tell
that person something nice like I like their shirt or their hair and I am
genuine about it.
Do you feel like
social media as a whole helps build you up and or do you feel like it makes it
harder to be positive?
I feel like social media builds me up more than it drags me
down. I love the feeling of community that social media has created. I feel
like so many people who I follow or follow me are all just trying to relate in
some way. Either to celebrate with each other or to let each other know we are
in the same boat. I’ve connected with so many women who have let me know I’m
not alone in so many situations. There has been a few times I’ve found myself
comparing to other people on social media but that’s not long lasting at all.
7. What helps you not compare yourself or
judge others, or what have you done or do now to help yourself not fall into
the game of judging and comparing?
I try to compliment instead of compare. Everyone is so
different from our personalities to individual style. There's no reason to
constantly compare because it will be a never ending game of making you feel
like crap. So instead I try to celebrate that difference instead of feeling
negative about someone or something.
8. What helps you feel confident and
beautiful?
I feel like we are all born feeling confident and beautiful
and don’t know any better until someone tells us different. Being confident is
really just being okay and liking who you are. Also realizing that the world
doesn't define what “beautiful” means. Beauty goes so much deeper than outer
looks. My mom taught me from a very young age what inner beauty looks like.
Because of that I often see past outside appearances and see their inner beauty
no matter what.
9. What brings peace in your life?
Jesus. When nothing else seems peaceful in my life I know I
can go to him and claim that peace. I recently listened to a teaching where the
women said where there is fear and anxiety in your life that is satan stealing
from you. It has stuck with me and I’ve done my best not to just sit in fear,
anxiety or self-doubt because I know my worth, and I don’t want to waste my
time focusing on all the negative or something I don’t have. When you focus on
everything you do have and change your attitude to being thankful is it so much
easier to see all the beauty in life.
10. What do you think women today can do to
have more self love and positive vibes towards themselves and others?
Grace!!!! Grace to be who they are but to also embrace who
they are becoming. We are constantly changing, and absorbing or adding to
ourselves. I try and remind myself that who I am today isn’t who I will be in 3
months from now. I think women need to accept themselves for who they are and
stop focussing on what the world says they have to be or look like. Start
loving who you are and acknowledging how awesome you are just for being you!
